I had several impressions when I first realized I was sick while we were still living in Finland. One of them was that I should be grateful for my blessings. I have so many wonderful blessings, this is not hard. My biggest and most loved blessing is my family, both immediate and extended.
The most immediate I see every day - my faithful husband, Ralph. When I was first diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis, I knew there would be some hard times coming so I told Ralph he could leave if he wanted to. He is still here and continues to be a source of real help. Sometimes when the changes become too much for him he spends time in the garage or backyard shop. He always comes home after being at work or away.
There are many things he does on a daily basis like cook meals. He has learned a lot, asks questions to become more expert and does all the shopping. He maintains our household and has built a cabin in the mountains that I love which accomodates all my special needs. We go there on just about a weekly basis. He always makes sure we have a movie to watch while we are there. It is kind of like our date.
I have a plaque on my wall that says: "Life is not about waiting for the storms to pass. It's about learning to dance in the rain". I am grateful Ralph is still dancing in the rain with me.